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From Racist ? Australia ….

A month is quite a long time to get feel of a country . Especially when one is roaming around in pubs , attending new year at opera theater in Sydney and relishing Sydney festival at Hyde park . Not to mention the countless walks on the

sydney , australia
Sydney , australia

street and activities alike .

Australia is a country which surely makes you feel fresh or may be its the commonwealth connection that , being an Indian makes me comfortable . And thats something which really contrast with the year long flood of news of attack on indians in Australia i am used to hear about .

Hearing all that on shore is quite a diff experience . It wasn’t yesterday when an indian was burnt alive in Melbourne that this issue struck my mind . Neither was it the countless precautions that my dear ones gave me before leaving for Australia . In fact being in pune , at the heart of sena movement and being a Marathi , i happen to see the other side of this threat .

It was the drive from the cab i took on 2nd January, from Sussex street to north Sydney  . As he started reassuring me on the attack in Australia , my first reaction was to see outside the cab window to make sure that he is not leading me in any wrong road . I smiled the next moment when i realized where this precaution  came from . And started actually listening to him .

He spoke a very common manly English which made me follow his accent easily 🙂 … along the 10 min drive he elaborated how this is a non racial country and how its some goons actually attacking Indians which is what is a stray incident  happening in  parammatta . I smiled with a neutral gaze and said him bye . Somehow , by this time the spark in Sydney air had made me aware of this fact , unconsciously though .

It was …the lady , today at the signal . Some 70 plus she must be . Dressed in a pink gown as she approached us at north Sydney station , she reminded me of my mother .

“Are you Indian?”,  she asked shreekant , my college who was unaware of what had happened in Melbourne yesterday .

“I wanted to tell you that this is not a racial country . Indians are welcomed here …”

“we are worried about what is happening these days in here” …. she spoke very earnestly … catching hear breath in the chilly Sydney summer .. and i listened very attentively … something inside told me that this is not going to be formality’s sake – talk …

“We discuss these things daily at our meetings and feel sad that such things are happening in our country ” she said looking at me , finally …..  Looking into my eyes actually .Her wrinkles shrinking in the pain , the pain that a sincere person feels … I noticed them .. actually i remember them still … while the though of the whole thing being “masala fried” by media flashed in my mind …

“Yeah , its concerning ” , my manager said , dry as i had expected him to be … i wanted to say something better to that lady and i started thing what to …

“I am  sorry for what is happening in Australia these days and what happened yesterday”

oh , i missed my heart beat , like i missed it on every “Jai Hind” scream after 15th august anthem prayer in my school days . There was  nothing apart from “thanks and good night” that i could say .

routine words to say , i felt … and realized that i was touched , startled and shocked at the same time .

Was it her compassion … or was it the sincerity in her eyes … or was it the thought that in India we would not have seen an Indian say sorry to a foreigner for something like this … was i ashamed or angry by the time this thought touched my conscience … or may be it was realization of what it means to be a citizen …. I don’t know  .

But a citizen saying sorry for something happening in her country to complete stranger …… it has shaken me …

I sit silent at my chair tonight , trying to figure out what exactly i felt today .. oh the racism in Australia … haven’t smelled the trace of it yet   …. or may be there is THE truth in the attack that are happening …

I doubt whether i would be able to intellectually analyze it today … … the “I am sorry” is too strong ..

and for some reason unknown … i remembered Gandhi … and how i felt when i saw that move for the first time …

thoughts …people… emotions …nationalism

wrapped in a web of all this .

From Racist ? Australia ,

Me .

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Why Rang De Basanti is Non-sense ..

RDB , Rang de Basanti a 2006 production is a fine a movie by cinematic standards . I adore the director Rakesh Mehra from days of movie Aks and RBD is most probably his finest work and finest work of the team involved it . In fact it is

RDB Movie Poster
RDB Movie Poster

land mark film for most of the Actors involved in it .

And its is also a landmark film for The Indian youth. That should be considered biggest success of the director and the movie . Recent 26/11 protests or the Jessica Lal case bear the testimony of this . The fervency  with which images of public participation of these 2 cases were circulated bears the testimony of this claim .This is where RDB gets elevated from the status of a super hit movie to a cult movie . Its like every Indian youth had this movie on his hard disk !!

RDB in a way introduced patriotism to current generation . Or may be this generation was always patriotic and RDB  gave them the manner to express it in . We might differ on the precise shade of the impact RDB caused on the masses but it is undeniable that RDB  made patriotism relevant to Gen-X ..Y and Z of India .

A story of few free spirited friends ( all north Indian !! ) whose belief on society , justice and patriotism gets shaken and altered with death of their friend . That’s the shortest way to express  the plotline . And if you agreed to how I described the plot of RBD you just agreed with me J .

Showing intellectually dysfunctional characters is the main characteristic on Hindi movies . A phenomenon  I could do PHD over 🙂 . Oh yes such thing does add hell of a drama to the plot   .

But we are not talking of any movie . RDB was for the first time the mobile generation in India actually spoke patriotism . Its was like RDB made it relevant to  them . All of sudden . RDB kind of laid out the structure of practical or may be unpractical nationalism .

26/11 Mumbai Peace March
26/11 Mumbai Peace March

I have no doubt that none will get shot for a national cause like its shown in RDB  . For in peacetime the citizen are know to be more practical and patriotic .

Moreover if there is indeed a person shown as care free as any one shown in the movie . Chances are in real life even he wouldn’t do something so scarifying ! . Nopes its not about someone’s love for nation  but its about the belief system . It can get shattered  and altered with one event , I have no doubt about that . But a complete change of value system and most importantly a sudden intellectualism .That’s something too short and too sweet for the process of problem solving . Whether it’s a character in the movie or the audience its not that realistic to happen that all of sudden anyone can come up with solution of problems at feeling of pain. With that RDB give us a pop shot of everything people (mis)understood RDB with .

Standing for a cause for a common man is a tough exercise . Its outright dumb to believe that a person struggling with life  doesn’t stand for a something as  grand as environment or nationalism .Its just that in normal circumstances people find how much they are going to ignore and how much they would fight against . Call it  practical Activism . It takes unusual circumstances or unusual conviction for a long time period for common man to turn crusaders  .Its here and how a complete change of character can happen.

We need to clearly differentiate between the process of doing an Act , Making a decision and Solving a problem . The thing that is common to these 3 is taking  a stand .But these 3 differ a lot in their genesis .

Doing an action at spur of the moment is sum total of the feeling that go on in ones mind .They may or may not effectively solve the problems . And while we do need to own these acts these are not what we call as decision .

Taking a decision is , on the same lines , is sum total of the thought you have . Conscious , unconscious and circumstantial . We are always making some decision in life .Times when there is plenty of time available the process of decision taking is felt and that is why we call it decision making .Even other wise when we make fast decisions the foundation is always there in our minds . But the short time that we do it in makes it feel like Gut feeling or sense of direction as we call it . What differentiates decision making  from doing an act is the occurrence of thinking .Right or Wrong we always think while we make a decision .

Problem solving as contrasted to above to is act of decision making done with reasoning out everything . The emphasis is not on reasoning out , that we do even in making decisions . The main differentiator is reasoning everything that one can think of about the problem .This is a detailed and conscious process and the time taken depends on how much one is clear about the topic at hand.Its this detailed and not necessarily lengthy process that can bring about a change in character . Such process can be triggered in one moment but its complete only when all the known details are covered . Else it cant be called a change of character .

RDB mixes acts with decisions made with problems solved . Its actually a revenge story colored in shades of nationalism .

I have no problem with the movie , its great . But a cult status it has, RDB at max gave people a way for token nationalism .A false sense of problem solving  for anything you feel you wish to stand for by just doing some act  .

Something that doesn’t make sense to me.

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Burn “The Alchemist “

Its a fine book , a modern classic , no doubt about it .

The Alchemist : Book Cover
The Alchemist : Book Cover

I loved reading this book and finished it in one sitting … at night .

It  was am overwhelming feeling , reading this book .  Paulo Coehlo ,  the author has created a mesmerizing combination of hope , wisdom,adventure and destiny in his book “The Alchemist”.  Its this combination and his simple style of writing that makes The Alchemist a compelling book and most often its with this book people realize what is meant by “Un Put Down-able”!

But the main reason why The Alchemist has become a record holder book for world wider circulation is because its fires your personal  imagination , its raises your hope , it makes your belief in destiny firm …..and its makes you believe in personal dreams almost unshakable and make you dream more !

“When you really want something to happen , the whole universe conspires to make it true .”

That’s the quote from this book which best captures the story and the spirit of it .

I love that quote ! …………….what a  magic it has.

This personal magic belief has been around with human being since may be we started thinking . Our mythology , history books are full of heroes and characters that possessed  and believed in the personal magic . Even in our modern day variety if living most of us have a magic belief .Like my magic belief is that i will change a bit of readers thoughts with this blog 🙂 .

A charm , a trick , a coincidence , an illusion or even superstition whatever you call it  . May be human  being love magic as a phenomenon . Or may be we love the escape from reality it offers  .And who knows may be there is indeed a magic that exist with everyone’s belief .

In fact if you are fan of this book , its precisely what it says .Read the quote again …

“When you really want something to happen , the whole universe conspires to make it true .”

The alchemist encourages you to want something to happen and voila  there is ….this whole universe that is with you . It acts like you buddy and does everything possible to make you successful . And what a bliss it is ! …to have the whole universe help us to get what we want .But did you ever think whether such a facility makes sense ?

No no , I am not saying that with such a conspiring universe even the Bad guyz stand to benefit .What if some one wants the Armageddon to happen ?. Nopes that’s not what bothers me . I would rather believe that this conspiring universe has got some sense and it helps only the good guyz .

But how about differentiating between the good guys and the deserving ones ? .

This is where The Alchemist gets my goat . It shifts the responsibility of hard work and so on ….from the dreamer to the universe . Even if we one has to believe in God or such a magic existing ,  the problem is that the book says that this magic is free and automatic ……….And that to me is dangerous .

Its not that everyone realizes how a book or anything around us affects us . So subtle are the influences on human mind that one can live a lifetime without realizing where did he/she acquired a particular thought from .The alchemist is a pretty poisonous book for such an effect . And in case you are thinking that people are pretty aware of what thoughts they choose , what influence they allow to affect their minds … think again . Or ask your psychiatrist friend 🙂 .There is no limit to how far from reality we can allow ourselves to go . The alchemist , I feel , put this mechanism to test . It rather uses it to the extreme  .

Its not the first time a book or literature for that matter , is depicting a rosy , destiny filled dreamy world to the masses . What differentiates The alchemist from other is that it ends up altering the fundamental  belief system that we posses . And it does it in a populist language and manner . A trick too lethal and compelling that people often won’t  even care to cross examine the new belief that has been seeded into them.

Now i have nothing against Paulo Coelho , I think that the book is worthy …. I even have no issues with destity-ism that it preaches .In fact every one has the right to escape from reality … the right to dream …dream big ..want more …and work for it .

What i am against is  …

……….someone believing that their dreams has to come true just because They are dreaming it …

………….“When you really want something to happen , the whole universe conspires to make it true “

Why should the universe do it at the birth of a dream , Mr Coehlo ?

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ps : I recommend you to read the book . Its a pleasure read .Just beware of how it might affect and ignite you.

And by the way I profess treating Book with at-most respect  .The title was just to make you take a stand 🙂

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Why reminiscence is pleasure

Remember is a rather mechanical word . For it doesn’t best express the pleasure that come  with it . The pleasure of remembering things , more sweet than bitter .

The act of deriving pleasure is central to human beings . Its a temptation so hard to resist that we even revisit past (events) to get more out of them .This act of pleasure visit to past is one of the most common reason that drives most of what we do .May be we are often unconscious of it .

reminiscence
reminiscence

I used to wonder at at Office farewell emails and speeches how pleasantly people talked about the past . Even while knowing that it was not all that hunky dory , i remained silent . After all every one deserves the benefit of selective memory , moreover i have nothing against someone being so positive about the past 🙂 .

I would brush such things off as routine behavioral thing . But what amazed me that such things stay on and that was little of a shocker .

We all reminisce our childhood . Our achievement , quarrels , relationships , our firsts 🙂 and so on .And why not?… these are the very personal memories that give us the presence we have . And that is  absolute pleasure to do .

But that still doesn’t answer why we reminisce ?        ……….. actually why we reminisce so much ,so often ?

This is something that goes completely against our crib of life being hectic , it kind of also contradicts our repeated claims of  enjoying the life.

…….even more notably why the older the memory the more pleasurable it is ?

The whole process of reminisce and recollecting old … very old,,, memories have magical quality in them. It can completely alter the mood we are in and can even inspire us to extraordinary things.

…………….may be the answer lies in the quality .

….may be its purity of the experience …….simplicity of things around us ………. our innocence !

The older the memories are the better these aspects of that memory are …..

………….Its something clearly that we miss in out present life …. that makes us remember the past .

Ah .. its our yearning for pure , uncomplicated and innocent life !!

……….Ever wondered whether children reminisce ? …

Don’t try to answer it ….

its obvious why the don’t  …actually … why they don’t have to ….

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15 August : Happy What?? Day

Happy independence  day
Happy independence day

On 15 the August   India celebrates its  independence day .

This line almost feels like opening sentence from of a school time essay and deservedly so .It was probably only in that age of innocence this day used to thrill  almost every kid.

For most of the non school going Indians this day means just little more than a holiday .And to many it might mean just another holiday. A saving grace could be those scanty blood donation camps or likes that people arrange today . Give or take few good citizen who are engaged in socio-national work through out the year and on whom media runs stories on this day , without fail .

This is not to say that all those Mahnedra Kapoor and Lata Mangeshkar songs played on 15th august don’t feel good .They do  ,but  the day doesn’t  .In fact  such a response is more of an extension of the childhood conditioning than an individuals sensitivity .

If you every felt angry that so many Indians only sit at home on this day doing nothing for the nation or watching TV  .Or felt that 15th August has lost its  relevance .The  fact is that  the day might have never had any relevance to Indian masses !

Its not that Indians are less patriotic than citizen of other countries .But we just don’t know what it means to celebrate a day  ..

A day devoted to celebration of the national Independence or the republic formation is a nationalist concept .  .Its more of a westerns concept so to say .The day celebration concept , be it I-day or R-day is aimed at remembrance of  the core values that the day is supposed to represent .Its is designed to focus mass attention to these values every year .And to further strengthen them.Its for this reason the celebration happens .

And this is precisely the place Indians find it out of place !

Its such kind of public display of nationalism that is unknown to Indian masses.Patriotism or to be more precise Nationalism is  an emotion a little too unknown to Indian mind set .We cant wear out national flag as a dress but we can die to be able to wear  it .

Now India is a celebration freak nation . We can and do celebrate anything under the sun .And i love it for that  .If you have beginning to notice the contradiction… hang on .The thread that runs common in Indian celebration is  the key here  .

All of our celebrations are ritualistic in nature .They revolve around specific rules and only the details are left to Individual choice . Imagine the Diwali , the Eid or the marriage and you know what I mean. The word is Ceremony ! Ours is a ceremony culture .

An event like I-day calls for a free spirited nation and the masses that are vocal about their individualism . And we are exactly not that . We are shy about our individualism and conservative about the free spirit ( pun  intended 🙂 ) .

Say tomorrow we form a colorful and detailed set of activities that an Indian is supposed to do in 15h August . Acts that are nationalist in nature but are  as ritualistic as a pooja .Something that can be of a shape of a tradition .Then on you might just see  a nation buzzing with activity on days like 15th August .

For  philosophical nature we have, we as a country don’t know how to enjoy themselves  . But we as the people  are busy  in a grand and ongoing celebration called life !.Its here our Independence has to be made relevant than forcing it to be wished as a Happy day  .

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Hats off ISRO : Bhuvan Rocks !!!

Note : Please click on the links at the end of this post in case you are not able to see the screen shots .

News channels  were abuzz with launch of Bhuvan an geographical imaging service from Indian Space Research Organizations (ISRO http://www.isro.org ) .

At present its a web based interface that offers geographical images that we are used to see on Google maps .

Bhuvan Web Screen shot
Bhuvan Web Screen shot

But Bhuvan is much more than what Google map offers in terms of service and significance .

The main punch in Bhuvan is its Indianess .It isn’t a news per se , India had launch satellites with remote sensing satellites under aegis of ISRO for quite some time now . And Bhuvan as a gesture of capability demonstration is very important for Indians .

However its Indianess doesn’t stop here .

It offers zoom in facility till 10 meters .

It has comes in multiple mode/variations that can display soil types , monsoon coverage apart from state,district boundaries , national highways and the most needed navigation information .

In fact Bhuvan goes further than this and allows in line graphical overlays for town planners and more .

Of couser it hides sensitive information like Gate Way of India in Mumbai and rightly so ,being a Govt of India  enterprise   .

One has to go to site http://bhuvan.nrsc.gov.in/index.html and register himself there to use Bhuvan .The present implementation mandates us to download and Active X component and its hoped that Bhuvan assumes collaborative features like Google Earth soon ( features like people tagging places on the map ). I alos hope that ISRO offers its as a service for other sites to embed Bhuvan widget in their pages and the wish list goes on .

Its worth a look guyz .And yes …

While registering at Bhuvan website today , I was asked about my name , password and the default information.

One of the column was “Purpose for Browsing Bhuvan” … National Pride ! I replied .

Hats Off  ISRO , Bhuvan Rocks !!! .

Here are some Screen Shots .

This screen shot shows India as a country zoomed in onto Bhuvan main page .One can add multiple layers like national , state ,district boundaries on it ( see the menu on  the left of the screen shot ) .

Bhuvan : India
Bhuvan Web Screen Shot: India

This Screen shot shows status of monsoon/ rain in India .It also has facility to select years and month for the display selection .

Bhuvan Mansoon Coverage in India
Bhuvan Web Screen Shot : Mansoon Coverage in India

Bhuvan has the proverbial city navigation feature .However ISRO block sensitive places like Gate Way of India etc. I have captured Colaba ,marine drive area of Mumabi city ( for easy identification 🙂 ) . Of course this can be zoomed to greater extent than this But but but , its not collaborative yet  , so you will fine names for only those places which ISRO has mapped .Hope a commercial open version of Bhuvan is launched soon .

Bhuvan Navigation : Mumbai City
Bhuvan Web Screen Shot : Navigation : Mumbai City

The screen shot is the best one . It shows how best Bhuvan captures geographical details like soli and tarrian . What you see here is place close to my native 🙂 . Its a place called Lonar in Maharashtra . And the circle you see is a crater made by Meteoric collusion from Jurassic Age ( No kidding )

Bhuvan : Terrian - Lonar Crater
Bhuvan Web Screen Shot : Terrian - Lonar Crater

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Wassup Sachin : Masked Pune and Swine Flu Scare

Pune has become a scary city ……..

Masked Pune
Masked Pune

Little did we know when Rida Shaikh the first H1N1 causality in India happened in pune that it will  turn out to be so ugly .

Exactly a week back we awoke to the reality of seeing masked people around us .Most of the youngster had a tinge of thrill in their eyes.All of the kids had innocence .Many of the elders had the false sense of security .And most of the old people had a mix of worry and a strange inner calm on their faces . A calm , something my generation of fast track IT people would die for bout would not achieve .

Masked at WorkPlace
Masked at WorkPlace

The same people irrespective of the age are now in a  state of flux .Exactly everyone I meet has information about swine flu .This in fact is good thing.But exactly every one I met also has an opinion on swine flu oops H1N1 .I would be tempted to blame this to media but that would an a cute and easy escape . We need to accept , the sooner the better , our  addictions . The addiction to constant stimulation . Call it vicarious-tainment if you wish to simplify .
Not that the tendency to be “In it” is something new to human beings . We see that every four year with cricket world cup in India.Everyone has an opinion on Mr Tehdualkar.

But a disease .. an epidemic that’s little too much . I wasn’t really perturbed  when the news that N95 masks are being sold for 250 in pimple saudagar hit us. That was the least surprising news for Pune IT crowd 🙂 .But the expertization of masses is scary .Its has started manifesting itself in our daliy lives .My housmaid now puts on her mask every time she enters our house and removes it as she leave it .And in case you are concluding that it is something to do with her education ,i see even superior instances at my work place .

Yesterday we had our first swine flu patient belonging the work place being found .Then on its has become a series of debates and   suggestions . It ranges from consuming Lime or tusli evrey few hours to the angry demand that nobody without a mask should be allowed at work place ! .It has become so extreme that i can easily manage to break the long queues for lunch coupons just by sneezing 🙂 . Whether I do this prank or not its already happening .And so has increased mindless use of handkerchief  to mask the mask itself , people repeatedly visiting the loo to wash their hands and eating lunch at their centrally Air Conditioned desks .

Even and more worry some is the number of times they go to Internet to check the death count .Its kinda of appropriateness thing to know the precise death count and cite it in all the discussions .The discussions that happen at hourly basis .Its kind of a hidden force that one can sense is driving everyone . A force to have some news on H1N1 every now and then .I would have ignored that as people getting anxious .But workplace or other wise we are bombarded with list of DOs and Don’t on swine flu. If tomorrow IIMs are to conduct CAT on H1N1 their servers will crash with the number of people scoring 100 percentile .The better word for this is scoop . Its the scoop that is driving the discussion .And its the same need of thrill that to me is more dangerous thanH1N1 .The only difference i could make between my workpalce and people outside is that Non IT people don;t take pride in showing the extra wikiepedia knowledge that acquired around Influenza…tamiflu ..and viruses in general.

I was about to send my parents back to  the naive today and my doctor friend told me at my native-village it will actually be a bad idea , socially, to arrive from Pune .And that fine for the village my native is….

but it  isn’t any batter at Pune , its just that here our superstitions are more scientific and arguments more English …

This evening while i was returning from in company bus there was this lady sitting beside me , Salwar clad and masked .She felt urge to sneeze and there happend the grand revelation to me…

this lady gently removed her mask … put her hand on her nose …and sneezed royally … oh she did put he mask back one her face …with a shade of assurance on her face ….

and i returned home debating internally …. what does it mean to be educated ..

Am i panicked by swine flu ?

No. but it doesn’t matter . What matter is how panicked people around are .

..Pune has Indeed …..become a scary city ……..

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Surviving Friendships

practical is an often misused word . Its mostly used to contrast like “Ideal vs practical” . The real contrast for me is actually “Realistic vs practical “.

Practical in simple terms denote something that is practiced .

And if you agree to this usage you will know why i chose to start a post on friendship with such a dry word .

Of all the relations friendship is second most talked about relation after love . Luckily its less confused about than love is. Almost every one agrees to the essence of what friends mean.

It can be as materialist as “friend in need is friend indeed” or it can be as exotic as “Friendship is what gives value to our survival” .

what ever is the definition  i am great fan of this relation .Its the most authentic relation than we have .Even more authentic and real than love . This is one relation that each one of us chooses in free will and spirit . Its un contaminated from fear , greed and desire ( something that makes love a complex thing ) .And we all own it completely .

Friendship is the most practical relation we have !.  Its what we choose to practice in life is how we gather our friends .To me that has immense power to an individual for his emotional survival .

Eric Berne says that all of the human interaction fall in following categories.

  1. Withdrawal
  2. Ritual
  3. Pastimes
  4. Activity
  5. Games
  6. Intimacy

Each one has it own characteristic and form essential part of our life .

Of all the relations friendship is the one where almost every shade of these manifest . Its for this reason i say friendship is a practical relation . Your or my basis of friendship with some one depends on what of above i practiced with in the relation .

While i don’t make a judgment of which one of the above is better than the other . In fact for the same reason we have so many words that describe friendship … friend , pal , soulmate ,buddy and so on .In case of Sanskrit this is even more graphic and detailed  mirta,sakha,surhud,snehi and so on..

To be precise its actually …. many words that describe the types of relations we form with our friends .Its almost karmic! 🙂

That brings us to the core of the topic of surviving friendship .

We make now easily intellectualize and say that relations fade for lack of substance . This is akin to saying that an acquaintance based on office rituals and cricket pastimes will fade away but an friend with real intimacy shall survive .I wouldn’t rubbish such a claim but its one sided to say it in short .Moreover it will make the whole topic complex  and it will also pass qualitative judgment on variations of friendship, a thing which i find un useful.

In a simple terms , we got to understand this . The base to our friendly relation a variety of topics associated to it . Each one of us connect to others on these topics with diff depth and at diff level. This is what adds flavors to our relations .

The problem is we often let this go un realized . Its these topics ,depth and level that change with passage of time.Every one of us go through diff life experiences as we live . Marriage , emigration,job,economics they all affect us constantly and change us . They also change grain by grain …..our likes on these topics , the depth we choose to go to and the levels at which we like to connect over these topics .

Its this phenomenon that affect our friendship . This is where most of us end up losing the vast network of friends we start with . The key word here is “Relevance” …if you wish to think over it . Its  relevance that alters our list of friends !! .And its the relevance crisis why we loose friends (or retain them).

I might have done a cozy post on friendship day .But as usual i choose the bitter-useful thing over the popular one.Consider this as my wish for friendship day .A day i would not like to celebrate (why should we need it) but I agree  to growing need of it (sadly) .

And in case you want a simple summary of this post , here it is .

“if we understand that friends change then  we don’t have to change friends ” .

Hope ur friends , in wahtever defination they fall … survive for your life time …. thats all we can claim as  completely  our own earning when we die .

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Hail : rakhi ka swayamvar

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Heyy ……………. Finally Rakhi Sawant got married . Ah What a relief .

and what a show it was man … 5 weeks …many news channel …millions of Indians and one lady !

My ramayan reading mom was glued to TV for this show just to see how far this lady will go ……. and boy i got revelation of lifetime .

This lady had just become the biggest media event in India . Something only sharukh khan can match for the money and hype involved .

Not that i support rakhi sawant and her type of dance and decorum  from the dayz of main hoo na …where i first noticed she exists .
but hey …The zeal with which we follow paris hilton and her videos …. isn’t it just fair for rakhi to claim her share of celebrity-dom in Indian way !!
There isnt a point in being hypocratic and discouraging this lass .
Shez controversial , shez in your face …shez fake ….and she is darling of media .
Her media management skills match that of Amitabh bacchan in the results ..  and i adore rakhi sawant for this !!

but this time …. with this swayamwar smth more happened .
For it was first time …. for real or fake …she was presented as a girl to all of india .
Its was a perfect transformation that could have been marketed . From an item girl to groom searching bride .
and of all events a swayamwar ….what a revenge it must have been on all the intellectuals …. and I admire rakhi for her guts.
and boy………………. in case you were laughing at this whole show as a joke … be alert ..
this must be the cleverest of marketing that we would witness  in these years

and I see more of rakhi sawant …. in newer and poweful forms to hit our faces …. and I love rakhi swant .

was the swayamwar staged …. ? ………who cares and why should we ….. the great indian entertainment show is on … and we consumed it without knowing what it means.

And I congratulate rakhi swant and Elesh .. her hubby .. the best luck ….and i even noted down the dress ideas for future 🙂

and i turned to mom …while the show was culminating …. that the world has changed beyond what she could cope up with ..
She must be corss checking this statement with her concepts of kaliyug …. i dunno

but I am happy … i just got one best example …. now on whenever i need to explain media and marketing manipulations …
i can just say ….this is like Rakhi ka sawayamwar ….

what U dint watch it ……….. ???? …what is good is your TV for …

but i love Rakhi Sawant …………… U jsut cant ignore her ………and none cares if you hate her or love her … lol

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Taming of a bright kid ..

Tushar was indeed a cute kid . Sparkling eyes with a tinge of mischief , curly hairs and an innocent face this little devil had .

The way he would tilt his neck while saying Bye to his mother ..on his way to school bus ….was the best moment of Shila’s life .And she would live that every day .

Readying tushar for school …. grooming him like a prince …she would thank god …everyday… for giving her such a lovely son .

Shila …his mother was really proud of her son .For mothers love knew no bounds to her only son and Tushar was smart kid @ school too .

This kind of added to the love his parents had for him .Especially to his father , a professor of Physics @ university .

It was kind of ego extension for both of them to have the best kid in the world as their son . Only that they were unaware of it .

Tushar nevertheless got the best love and care a kid would get .He was pampered for all his demands made for cars and game console.

Even for his mischief’s he was handled very gently .

…Except for one thing .

Tushar had a nasty habit of cleaning his nose with his finger .He would put his finger inadvertently in his nose …every now and then .

“But he is only 7 years ” the mother said , “we must not get harsh on him” .Suresh his father was rather adamant of disciplining Tushar of this habit ..”We have given him the best training in this town…how can he do this …?”…he would crib .

“U know Misses Premjis daughter ..that little Shahina ….she still sucks her thumb …..our tushy …oh he must be having some real irritation in his nose ” ..

“Or is this a case of sinus…dunno if kids so small to get it …….may be we should show him to doctor …………or shall I ask him to do anulom-vilom …..is it ok if kids do it …may I should call baba ramdev on the number they show on Aastha …and ask him only … ” “Oh my little tushy …but we must not get harsh on him …its only a small habit …see how well he behaves otherwise ” …

Oh mothers heart ..!! ….shila would go at length to defend her kid ….whenever Suresh will shout @ Tushar for putting his finger in his nose .

But inside her heart ..she felt depressed ..a little . She would love to see her son to be the best in the world . And the harsh words coming from Suresh were also true .

We must groom Tushar to be …a man ..tomorrow he has to compete in the world outside …with the Shahina of premjis …..satyam of the next door rajus …and tony of the ramodurai’s..and may be …some day …the firangis

She was disturbed .Knowing not what to do .The noon passed like this and her angel came back from school . Oh what a bliss it was to see him back from school on time .

And immediately she remembered everything that she thought …through that noon . Tushy just put his finger in his nose .

“Honey …don’t do that … u know it’s a dirty habit ….” She said . Tushy promptly took his finger out .”This would not work ”she thought .”Its just not acceptable ..may be I should do something more sustainable ” shila’s mind started working .Calmly .then she approached Tushar ..embracing him with a firm hug …she told him the pact ….

Tushar would get an extra glass of apple juice for the day he would not put his finger in his nose …and he would not get his favorite bournvita for a day he puts his finger in his nose .

Not that tushar liked apple juice …he rather hated it ..but he would drink it anyway …for the love his mother would give it with .

Oh he did obey his mother …. Shila was happy … it worked … now she could love her some more ….and flaunt it in front of Suresh to …she won …

“See our sonny boy is behaving so well” she said proudly to suresh ..as they were sipping tea on a Sunday morning ..overlooking a Tushar playing …outside …

As luck would have it …then next moment …he put his finger in his nose ….Suresh gave a dry smile ….and shilas heart sank …

“Oh its not working ….he behaves well only inside house …..its not good …….may be …may be I should tell more people to monitor him “ …

With that ….next day …she called his class teacher …and told her to keep a watch ….

And it worked !!….only a month later ….his teacher called and told her the good news ….Tushar ..stopped putting his finger in his nose ….in the class room.

“In the class room ….oh that means outside he does ” …”May be I should tell his friends too …to keep watch on him” …

She started talking to Tushar’s friends……one by one …and lo …its worked ….

Shila was happy …it was working ….her honey kid …is now behaving ….he wouldn’t put his finger ..in his nose ……………………in front of all the people …

But that saddened her a little ……………he would still do it ….when he is with strangers …..”But I cant tell everyone in city ……about him …..it will hurt his self esteem …may be I should do something more sustainable ….”

Only if …there was some facility …………………something like a satellite camera that would follow…tushar …all the day …every where he goes ………

May be if there was some facility ………………something like a mobile speaker that would follow Tushar …….so shila would could control him ..herself …every moment …

Every time …then on…..when Tushar would even lift his finger she would know from the camera…..and then …she could ….shout from the Loud spaker …..

“Please …use handkerchief to clean your nose …………….please …..don’t put you finger in your nose ….”

…oh my sonny boy …you are supposed to be best in the world ….why don’t you understand …………my kid …..” shila went on …disciplining her kid ..

Background :
There is this footpath that’s been build recently at my work place . Its a tiny little path on both side of roads inside our campus . We are supposed to walk on it .
The problem is we are supposed to walk ONLY on it ….Tch Tch … it didnt work …
and finally one fine day there were sicurity guards deployed on the walkways … they wud guide us with whistles to walk on the footpaths…..Tch Tch …it dint work too …
and then one fine day …..These guards were given loud speakers …and they would shout from it …asking us to walk on the FP … Only on the FP .
The story was prompted based on this occurance but none from my workplace related to it ..
PS : With rainy seasons the loud speakers are silent ..and I hope this is forever ..