The other say my junior came to me and apologized for smth she did not do well .
“Sorry sir , I am not good at communication skills” .
Not that the mistake was trivial but this confession kind of got stuck …
Somehow there seemed to be a right way of saying things .
That was the communication skill under discussion .
Somehow it seemed that everyone , almost every one at workplace was supposed to have them .
And every one is supposed to have them the same right way .
I am amazed at genesis of such developments .
They say ignorance is bliss ………………..
And the whole stuff of interpersonal skill is centered around making these ignorance known .
Known to people so that they can acquire and improve them .
to me this seems like a huge burden , one is supposed to know the right thing to do or say .
And what amazes me further is that the fact that each one us is made different .
Then how is that there is one magical skill/s that fits and cures all our problem .
Nopes I am not making a case against social appropriateness . The manners and etiquette’s relevant to the situation we are in must be followed .
And luckily most of human beings have them by the time they grow up .
Its what happens after that makes me disturbed .If you observer all / most of the skill that are tught have one common thread .
Its about being manipulative in a non villainous way .
Its about suppressing yourself and saying/doing things the way it would please others .
Restrain and suppression in this case are to similar but distinct thing .
I wonder , how much such kind of faking it really makes people happy .
And more especially how long ?
We might have huge benefits by being practical and acquiring such skill .
But the point remains is if all your life one has lived a fake self then isn’t that what he / she really is ?
This is where may be the answer lies …
Being how much polished is………. natural ?
and where does the boundary between necessity and compulsion lie …….?
or in our journey of being professional , being the resources for being productive we have lost this distinction .
or is it that some one who wanted to design the modern productive working society has forgotten that everyone cannot be best in the same way .So any effort of enforcing such forced adaptation goes against the very reason of why …………………we wish to work and earn .
…….the reasons of progress and happiness . For everyone , all together …. being unique !